My boyfriend and I have been together for eight months and were friends for about a year before that. I love him, but I find it odd that I haven’t met any of his friends or family. I’ve asked a couple times, and he always responds with “soon enough.” Should I be concerned, or is this normal?
Yes, you should be concerned. No, that is not, in any way, normal.
It is odd but not outrageous that you haven’t met this guy’s family after eight months. Some people’s mums and dads, well, they fuck you up. But it’s flat-out flabbergasting that you haven’t met any of his friends in eight months.
You need to confront him about this, fast. He needs to explain exactly why he hasn’t introduced you to anyone he cares about. And you need to break up with him if he doesn’t introduce you to the people in his life soon.
He’s doing one of two things: He could be hiding his family and friends for some odd reason — perhaps because he’s embarrassed by them, because he’s pathologically private, or because he just has some complicated relationships that will make him uncomfortable and will take a while to explain. Any such reasons are most likely utter horseshit. It’s more probable that he’s hiding you because you’re the other woman, or one of many women — and he’s protecting whichever other woman his family and parents already know.
We all fall for people for all sorts of reasons, and sometimes the most seductive people charm the pants off us specifically because they’re so mysterious. In fact, every time we flirt with someone new, we don’t know their full story — and not knowing their secrets is part of dating’s kick. But let’s be blunt: This isn’t normal. Doesn’t it sound like he’s cheating on you? Or that he is cheating on someone else with you?
Even if the worst-case scenario isn’t true, you should think about what you really want out of a guy. If you’re looking for a serious relationship, you deserve to be with someone who’s serious about you too. You deserve someone who will not just introduce you to a few friends, at the bare minimum — but someone who will open up his life to you.
Tell him you can’t go on like this. Tell him that if he can’t immediately introduce you to his friends and quickly introduce you to his family, you need to bounce.
“Soon enough” is not enough.
Source: RADAR NG
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