Some men have a rigid type of woman they go for: High achiever, dirty sense of humour, vinyl collector. Personally, I steer away from having a specific type. How do you know if you really like someone until you’ve dated them? And don’t your needs, desires and ideas of attraction change over the years? Variety, as they say, is the spice of life. So before you settle down to one wonderful super-woman, make sure you’ve dated a few unsuitable ones too. Like these.
She’s more experienced than you, possibly older and definitely wiser. She’s not like the ditzy girls you’ve been out with before; Alpha has a PHD, mortgage on her own is immaculately groomed at all times. She knows what she wants – in the bedroom, boardroom and beyond — and it’s incredibly attractive. But it takes a strong and secure man to be with an Alpha woman, one who’s happy to stay home with the kids whilst she kicks arse at work and not be fazed by her success.
You met when her dinner party turned into a mini party and a mate of a mate introduced you. She’s hugely social but favours nights in, cooking and drinking with friends or the local pub rather than fancy clubs. You like her because she avoids conflict or drama and makes you feel looked after. She’s good in relationships and doesn’t do one-night stands. You’ll date for a couple of years before either the passion dies and one of you craves something more exciting, or you’ll get married and move to Hertfordshire.
The Hot Mess
Rarely awake before midday (unless still up from the night before, of course), she’s got bed-head hair, kohl-smudged eyes and a smoking hot body toned from dancing and tanned from festivals. You met on a night out and your dates start in Dalston and end in Vauxhall. Hot Mess is not looking for a boyfriend; she’s looking for a party-buddy. But whilst a long-term relationship may not be on the table, you’ll have a hell of a time dancing on them.
You’ve always fancied her a bit, but considered her one of the boys rather than viable girlfriend material. Then, one night, both single and intoxicated, one thing leads to another. Before you know it you’re shagging your best friend. Which is fine. You probably feel more comfortable around her than any other girl you’ve been out with. She’s hot, makes you laugh and might actually be The One. Or, you’ll wake up with a head full of regret and ruin one of your strongest friendships.
The Kooky Girl
She’s works with children, in art or for somewhere non-profit. She’s prone to cancelling because she doesn’t like to plan, instead relies on instinct. You’ll spend nights drinking red wine out of jam jars, talking about feelings or having tantric s3x. Compared to your need for planning, structure and organisation, Kooky Girl is a breath of fresh air and helps you chill out a bit. But the flakiness might bug you eventually.
The Totally Unsuitable Completely Inappropriate Woman
Your boss, mate’s sister or ex-girlfriend who broke your heart. The slightly crazy co-worker, vacuous socialite, married woman or girl your friends hate because she already slept with two of them and can’t be trusted. Dating someone who is explicitly wrong for you is important not only to help you realize what you want from a relationship, but you’ll have one hell of a story to tell for years to come.
Do you agree?
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