5 Reasons Men Leave ‘Happy’ Marriages

Have you ever been shocked at the news a couple you know is splitting up? The first thing out of your mouth was probably, “But they had a perfect marriage” or “They seemed so happy.” That happened to me recently when I learned a friend and her college sweetheart hubby were calling it quits. Of course, I wanted to know how this seemingly ideal union crumbled. One day, he came home and said that it was over because she didn’t make him laugh anymore. Devastating, right? Especially considering the fact that she had two kids and supported him through medical school and his residency. In the months since hearing about it, I haven’t gotten her story out of my mind. I’ve been asking other divorced women the real reasons their husbands gave them for leaving. Here is what they had to say.

You don’t make me laugh anymore. When they met, they were young and carefree. Much of their time was spent having fun and daydreaming about the future. Any married person with kids will tell you that the laughs dwindle when adult responsibilities kick in. But it’s incredibly sad to think that he was unwilling to work harder at recapturing that old magic. It’s not easy, but it’s also not impossible. And from what she tells me, he wasn’t exactly Mr. Fun either.

We don’t want to have sex enough or the sex is too routine. I don’t know one married person who doesn’t have this complaint. Working, kids, and maintaining a home are exhausting. Sometimes the last thing you want to do at the end of the day is have sex.

I’m not saying that this is right – but it just is. However, is this really a marriage dealbreaker? Need I remind you of the whole “for better or worse” part of the vows. I’m not saying he should have just coped with a sexless marriage, but maybe they could have worked out a plan or taken a few romantic getaways to kick-start the romance again.

You don’t put me first anymore. Or course she doesn’t. And this came from a guy with kids. Three of them! He just couldn’t grow up and accept that her life no longer revolved around his needs.

I’ve lost respect for you. This comment didn’t come after he learned she had been cheating or gambled their 401(k)s away. To him, she was no longer the confident, independent go-getter he fell for all those years ago. Admittedly, her self-esteem had taken a dive after failing to lose her baby weight. And her focus was more family than career now. But who isn’t different 15 years later? He has likely changed too, but can’t see that.

You are always on my back. Sadly, nagging had become an everyday thing in their marriage. Feeling overwhelmed, she says she constantly complained about what he wasn’t doing. Bottom line was she needed help and he never seemed to want to give it to her.

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#Beyonce Explains The Birth Of ‘Yoncé’ And Breaking ‘The Fourth Wall’

By now, fans of Beyoncé have spent hours with the singer’s recently released fifth studio album. The self-titled “visual album” sold over 1 million copies in the first five full days after its release. On Saturday afternoon, Beyoncé screened the corresponding videos at New York’s School of Visual Arts and appeared in person to answer some previously submitted fan questions about the project.

Among the topics addressed as fans ate popcorn from “Beyoncé” bags and drank sodas and huckleberry juice: motherhood, why Beyoncé shared more personal details of her life on this record than ever before and how she kept the entire effort under wraps until it hit iTunes. She also explained the birth of “Yoncé,” a nickname that’s a motif throughout the album (a Justin Timberlake and The-Dream-penned track on the LP is entitled “Yoncé,” and the singer wears a necklace with the word on it in multiple videos):

“We were in the studio, and Justin Timberlake started beating on buckets. So, when you hear the beat, it’s literally a bucket. It was really organic, and it reminded me of being in middle school during the lunch breaks, when you just start freestyling. So we kept the buckets, and we went back and forth. I was very adamant about keeping it organic, because that whole element is what is so beautiful about it. And Dream just started, ‘Yoncé on his mouth like liquor,’ and I’m like, ‘What does that mean?’ But I love it, I think Beyoncé is Beyoncé, Mrs. Carter is Beyoncé, Sasha Fierce is Beyoncé. And I’m finally at a place where I don’t have to separate the two. It’s all pieces of me, and just different elements of a personality of a woman, because we are complicated.”

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Angels have no wings, says Catholic ‘angelologist’

Angels exist but do not have wings and are more like shards of light, at least according to a top Catholic Church “angelologist” who says the heavenly beings are now back in vogue thanks to New Age religions.

“I think there is a re-discovery of angels in Christianity,” Father Renzo Lavatori told AFP on the sidelines of a conference on angels in a lavishly-frescoed Renaissance palace in Rome.

“You do not see angels so much as feel their presence,” said Lavatori, adding: “They are a bit like sunlight that refracts on you through a crystal vase.”

The senior clergyman was taking part in a debate this week on angelic art by the Fondazione Archivio Storico, an Italian art foundation, and was held in the Vatican-owned Palazzo della Cancelleria.

ANGEL MEANS MESSENGER

Professor Valerio Massimo Manfredi, an art historian taking part in the conference, said the first mention of the word “angelos” came from the Mycenaean civilization in Greece more than 3,000 years ago.

The word means “messenger” in ancient Greek.

Monsignor Giovanni Tonucci, head of the Loreto Marian sanctuary, said that angels were “pure souls” whose lack of a defined form had allowed artists through the ages to let their creative imagination run wild.

“Following the cultural history of angels is following the history of humanity, or at least of our civilization,” the organisers said.

“Angels have helped drive religious and philosophical thought and have given birth to sublime forms of poetic and artistic expression,” they said.

Lavatori said the popularised image of angels is a necessary result of their being “back in fashion” but is dismissive of all the angel art around Christmas.

“There is space for that, but you have to understand that these are not real representations. Angels do not have wings or look like cherubs,” he said.

The widely-published Catholic clergyman is also a “demonologist” and says angels are more needed than ever because increasing secularisation and materialism in society have left an “open door” for the devil.

“There is a lot more interference from diabolical forces. That is why you see queues of people outside the exorcists’ offices in churches,” he said.

“Pope Francis talks more about the devil than about angels and I think rightly so. But it’s still early, he will get round to the angels too.”

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Paul Walker’s Accident Was Not Caused By Mechanical Issues, – Official Says

LOS ANGELES (AP) — Investigators have found no evidence that the Porsche carrying “Fast & Furious” actor Paul Walker had mechanical problems before it crashed.

A law enforcement official with knowledge of the investigation tells The Associated Press the car lost control due to “speed, and speed alone.”The official requested anonymity because the official was not authorized to speak publicly.

The investigation also ruled out debris in the roadway as causing the car in which Walker was a passenger to smash into a light pole and tree.

The Nov. 30 crash killed Walker and the driver, his friend and financial adviser Roger Rodas.

Investigators won’t set a firm speed at which they think the car was traveling until Porsche engineers come to California next month to extract information from on-board data collectors.

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Scientists have long known that kids who grow up with a pet, are less likely to develop asthma or allergies.

Scientists have long known that kids who grow up with a pet, like a dog or cat, or live on a farm with plenty of livestock are less likely to develop asthma or allergies.

They didn’t know what exactly protected these kids, but speculated that it had something to do with the “hygiene hypothesis” — the idea that modern lifestyles are too clean, and therefore our immune systems aren’t exposed to enough bacteria, viruses and parasites (the kind that likely hitch rides in pet hair) to build up proper immunity.

Now, researchers think they are getting closer to a possible explanation.

TIME.com: Study: Why dogs and cats make babies healthier

A team of researchers from the University of Michigan exposed a group of mice to dust from a dog owner’s home, then doused them and a population of mice who weren’t given dog dust to two asthma-related allergens (including cockroach compounds).

The mice that had been exposed to the dog dust showed much lower inflammation in their airways, and produced less mucus than the mice that received no dust or dust from a nondog household.

But it wasn’t the dust that was protective, but what lived in the dust — microbes that actually reshape the community of living organisms in the rodents’ gut. These changes influenced the immune response of the mice and their ability to fight off certain allergens.

Specifically, the researchers found that a single bacteria called Lactobacillus johnsonii was very prominent in the guts of the mice who lived with dog-related dust. When the researchers gave a live form of the bacteria to the mice that had not been exposed to dog dust, they found that the animals developed similar protection against allergens that the dust-exposed mice had.

What’s encouraging about the findings, which were published in the journal, Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, is the fact that the dust associated with the dogs seemed to prompt an immune response against microbes that have been linked to asthma in kids.

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The Highest Paid Actress in Nigeria

Mercy Johnson Okojie is the highest paid actress in Nollywood right now. Besides being one of the most sought after actresses, the dark skinned actress has placed herself on a pedestal where she now charges up to N2million fee for a movie.

In the last few years, films with Mercy Johnson’s name and face in it, have some what become an indication that the film will turn-out a best-seller. Recognizing this fact, it is no wonder the actress has pushed up her fees high up for marketers and producers who request her to feature in their flicks.

A few months ago, the Film and Video Producers and Marketers Association of Nigeria (FVPMAN) threatened to ban the actress for allegedly becoming exorbitant with her fees, which have shot up as high up as N2m for a movie role, while the rest of her peers are paid between N700,000 and N1.2million. In her response, Johnson answered her critics to go for less payable actresses, if they are unable to pay her by saying, ‘Wats wrong when u keep quiet till u no wats up? no petition, no complain just fees those who can’t afford Heineken should stick with ‘Kai kai’.

The 28year old actress made her acting debut in the movie ‘The Maid‘ in which she played the role of a possessed house help.
Her performance in the movie shot her into the limelight and has acted in other major movies ever since. With all her talents and assets, it is no wonder some media pundits have agreed that she is the most exceptional actress for the year 2013.

When Nollywood filmmaker, Charles Novia drew up his list of the ‘Best 5 Nollywood Actresses for 2013′, it was not surprising to find Mercy Johnson’s name on the top of the list. ‘There’s something ultra-natural and organic about Mercy Johnson which confounds even her critics’, Novia said. ‘In four movies I watched in 2013, which she starred in, she was the epitome of delightful characterisation. Watch her in the ‘Dumebi’ spawn of movies and you would appreciate how her talent has evolved since she came back from her maternity break’.

Last week, MJ as the actress is fondly called became the subject of discussion on twitter when Rubbin’ Minds host and Ebony Life TV presenter, Ebuka Obi-Uchendu tweeted his admiration for the actress’ work. ‘Mercy Johnson makes a lot of ‘leading ladies’ in Nollywood look like amateurs. Yes, I’m talking about all your favorite divas and A listers’ Uchendu tweeted.

‘I’ve seen her do everything VERY WELL. Diva, runs girl, villager, corporate chick, mother, grandmother, villain, hero. All!’, Uchendu continued.
Early this year when she returned back from the US where she went to deliver her baby girl, MJ had several scripts waiting for her. NET sources had confirmed that between March and July, MJ had no less than 20 scripts waiting for her being sent by marketers and producers in Nigeria and Ghana.

Already, since her return to Nollywood, she’s featured in about six productions, including the Tchidi Chikere produced comedy, ‘Dumebi Goes to School‘, a sequel to the hilarious ‘Dumebi The Dirty Girl’ which won her the award for the Best Actress in Comedy Role’ at the 2013 Africa Magic Viewers Choice Awards (AMVCA).

Besides her acting skills, everybody just loves Mercy Johnson.
She’s pretty much the ultimate girl crush right now.

One thing for sure is that she isn’t planning to relinquish her position anytime soon as she tweeted, ‘Na God do am and only he can take it back.

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Jim Iyke Arrested by Ghanian Police For Fight in Accra over $10,000

This morning, Nollywood actor, Jim Iyke was in front page of different newspapers in Ghana – well, not for the right reasons though.

The actor was alleged to have been involved in a fight at a café over monetary dealings – he was arrested and later released by Ghana police.
Here’s The Ghanaian Times Newspaper report;

Nigerian movie star, Jim Iyke, was involved in a brawl yesterday at the Crave Cafe at Adjiringanor, East Legon in Accra.

According to an eyewitness account, some people were eating at the cafe at about 5pm when a stout gentleman in a black Range Rover with a Nigerian number plate parked by the cafe.

Arriving in his Sports Chevy with a Nigerian number plate 20 minutes later, Jim Iyke got engaged the man in a heated argument over $10,000 which later turned into a nasty brawl on the street.

The eyewitness further explained that it became difficult for those around to separate the two, and at a point, Jim Iyke wanted to get into his car to pull out something which was suspected to be gun, but he was prevented by those at the cafe.

The other man left but returned shortly with two policemen, one in mufti and the other in uniform who arrested Jim Iyke and took him away.

But the eyewitness told The Ghanaian Times that barely 20 minutes later, the actor resurfaced at the venue, which created the impression the case had been “settled” by the two policemen.

The Legon Police Commander in a telephone conversation with the paper said, the men he dispatched to the scene after receiving information found that people around were reluctant to give the police in-depth account of what actually transpired and so they were unable to bring the two men to the police station.

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